confidence or arrogance?
Confidence? Or arrogance?
Sometimes it's easy to confuse the two -- because confident people tend to be solid in themselves, sure of their passions & message, fearless in their conversation or approach to others. To someone who ISN'T overly confident, this kind of approach to life can be misconstrued as arrogant -- but it isn't.
How can you tell the difference? Arrogance usually doesn't have anything behind it other than wishful thinking and a desire to create an image. With arrogance, there's no there there.
It's also the kind of thing that you can't fake -- we all know when someone really has it, or when they don't.
I like to check in with myself every so often, and see where I'm at with respect to my own attitude, and what I project in the world.
Am I coming off as secure or insecure - ie, confident or arrogant? Do I know what I'm talking about and sharing with others? Am I over-compensating from some inner feeling of NOT knowing what I'm doing? Am I secure in myself? Am I afraid of what 'others will think of me' (kiss of death, lol)?
My best advice, if I have to give any, about how to be confident, is to stay in the heart. If I speak from my heart, if I trust that whatever I'm doing or sharing is authentic and honest from inside, then even if I make some goofy mistake or don't have all the answers in a line at any given moment, I'm genuine in my passion and communication -- and when I'm genuine, I'm confident.
Pretty simple, really.
I'm just sayin'.
- Alx, full of Healing Feeling - Lifechanging Zeal